February 16, 2010 | Plastic Surgery
5 minute read
There are plenty of books out there on cosmetic surgery. Most explore the procedures, the risks, and the expected outcomes. But few dive deep into the emotional and psychological complexities that motivate people—especially women—to go under the knife. That’s what makes Sex, Lies & Cosmetic Surgery by Lois Stern such a standout read. Rather than merely discussing “Am I a good candidate for surgery?” Stern boldly moves into more intimate and overlooked territory, asking—and answering—the deeper questions women are often too shy to say out loud.
A Book That Goes Beyond the Surface
Lois Stern does something refreshingly different: she brings the reader into the unfiltered, vulnerable world of more than 100 women who’ve considered or undergone cosmetic surgery. She doesn’t rely on secondhand research or distant statistics. She did the homework—literally. From deeply personal interviews to her own experience with cosmetic enhancements, Stern creates a compelling narrative that’s equal parts informative and empowering.
What separates this book from typical medical manuals or beauty guides is its heart. It isn’t just about how a facelift can reverse signs of aging or how liposuction can reshape your figure. It’s about the why. Why do women really seek cosmetic surgery? And what do they expect from it—physically, emotionally, socially, and even sexually?
Will I Be Happier Later?
According to Stern, this is one of the most common and sincere questions asked by women considering plastic surgery: “Will I be happier after I do this?” Her answer, drawn from her research and interviews, is both thoughtful and hopeful.
At Aesthetic Plastic Surgery in Eugene, Oregon, we see this same question arise during consultations. We’ve observed that when the procedure is pursued for the right reasons—with realistic expectations and a healthy mindset—the answer is often a resounding yes. Self-consciousness gives way to confidence. Clothing fits better. And a patient’s face lights up when they see their reflection, now aligned with how they feel inside.
Stern illustrates this beautifully through her interviews—sharing stories of women who, after surgery, no longer felt invisible. They felt seen, appreciated, and revitalized. The euphoria of finally feeling comfortable in your own skin is an underlying theme throughout the book, and it’s one many of our patients can relate to.
Practical Advice for a Real Partnership
While Stern has heart, she also has spine. She isn’t afraid to tell it like it is.
Her message is clear: cosmetic surgery is a collaboration, not a miracle. You can’t expect a surgeon to work magic if you show up underprepared, withhold important information, or choose a provider based on bargain pricing. As she points out, “Your body is not a discount store. It’s precious.”
She emphasizes the importance of transparency: disclose your medications, your lifestyle, your habits, your goals. A successful surgical outcome depends on honesty between the patient and surgeon. This is something we take very seriously at Aesthetic Plastic Surgery, where thorough consultations and medical history reviews are part of every pre-surgical plan.
Stern also includes checklists and self-assessment tools, which help readers decide if they’re truly ready for a procedure. It’s not about perfection, but about informed, adult decisions.
The Emotional Afterglow of Transformation
Some of the most touching parts of Sex, Lies & Cosmetic Surgery revolve around how women feel after their surgeries. One recurring topic is the return of visibility—how women, particularly those over 40 or 50, feel seen again in public spaces and social settings. Stern explores this not just as a vanity metric, but as a valid part of human connection and self-worth.
She also tackles the effects of cosmetic surgery on relationships, including in the workplace and—yes—in the bedroom. The increased confidence that comes from aligning one’s outer appearance with how they feel internally often leads to improved intimacy and self-expression. While not the sole goal for most patients, it’s certainly one of the welcome side effects.
A Must-Read for Anyone Considering Cosmetic Surgery
Lois Stern doesn’t sugarcoat anything. She dives headfirst into topics people shy away from, like vanity, body image, sexuality, and societal expectations. She makes it clear that choosing cosmetic surgery doesn’t mean you’re superficial—it means you care about how you look and how that appearance affects your life.
She also dispels myths, such as the outdated belief that only the rich and famous pursue cosmetic procedures. Today’s patient is often a working professional, a mother, a teacher, or a retiree—regular people making thoughtful, well-researched decisions about their bodies and well-being.
Final Thoughts: Empowering, Not Prescribing
What makes Sex, Lies & Cosmetic Surgery truly powerful is that it doesn’t try to convince anyone to get surgery. Rather, it empowers readers with the tools, stories, and perspectives needed to make their own choice. It celebrates autonomy, advocates for emotional honesty, and most of all, champions the belief that you deserve to feel good about yourself—whatever that means for you.
At Aesthetic Plastic Surgery in Eugene, Oregon, we align with Stern’s philosophy. Every patient deserves to feel heard, respected, and supported. Whether you’re exploring a mommy makeover, considering breast augmentation, or simply seeking skincare advice, we invite you to consult with us. We’re here to provide not just clinical excellence but compassionate care.
Want to learn more? Visit our homepage at aestheticplasticsurg.org or call (541) 687-8900 to schedule a consultation.
Because when it comes to your body and your happiness—you should always be the one in control.